Building effective relationship with your daughter
Maintaining a close emotional relationship with your girl will keep you connected. She needs to know that no matter what happens to her, Mum will always be there for her. So even if she chooses not to involve you in her decision-making process, it’s good she knows that whatever the outcome of her decisions, although she takes responsibilities for her actions, Mum will still be there for her, not to condemn her but to give her that support and shoulders to lean on.
Those very close to their teenagers will tell you that although teens seek independence from parents they still carry in them the fear of making terrible mistakes; this makes them subtly seek their parent’s safety and security. Being emotionally available for your teen gives her that confidence that ‘Mum’s got my back covered’.
Mothers often say that they find it very difficult to trust their teenage girls more because in their quest for independence they device ways of achieving what they want even if they have to tell lies to cover up some wrong doings. Most teenagers lie because they see it as an easier route in solving their peer pressure and influence which is very strong. As much as possible spend time to discuss often with your girl on the happenings around her life. That way your major concern will be her safety.
TO BE CONTINUED……
Adapted from MY DAUGHTER, MY FRIEND. To read More, Please get a copy HERE
LOVE AND LUST
LOVE – we have all experienced love at some point in our lives; we have been loved by our parents, brothers, sisters and friends. But romantic love is different; it is an intense, new feeling unlike any of these other ways of loving. It is that special feeling of liking the opposite sex, which draws you closer to that person and is most times driven by strong passion. But there is more to loving an individual than just the emotion; it is more that crazy funny feeling you get today that is no longer there tomorrow. Love is a sacrificial placing of someone else ahead of your needs, wants and desires.
Love is taking on RESPONSIBILITY.
LUST – is the absolute selfish desire to fulfil either a physical or emotional need or want, for example when a boy lusts over you, all he wants from you at that moment is to have your body, which is SEX, and immediately after that he doesn’t want to have anything else to do with you.
So lust is a momentary feeling that is based on want for physical benefits.
Lust is running away from RESPONSIBILITY.
INFATUATION – is often a mental obsession, characterized by the person daydreaming and fantasizing about the opposite sex. An infatuated person will create an unrealistic impression of the person they are fantasizing, and when they really get close to the person and see the actual truth of the person, they quickly lose interest, they get disillusioned and disappointed.
Infatuation is also called an unreal love and has no RESPONSIBILITIES just DISAPPOINTMENTS.