Maintaining a close emotional relationship with your girl will keep you connected. She needs to know that no matter what happens to her, Mum will always be there for her. So even if she chooses not to involve you in her decision-making process, it’s good she knows that whatever the outcome of her decisions, although she takes responsibilities for her actions, Mum will still be there for her, not to condemn her but to give her that support and shoulders to lean on.
Those very close to their teenagers will tell you that although teens seek independence from parents they still carry in them the fear of making terrible mistakes; this makes them subtly seek their parent’s safety and security. Being emotionally available for your teen gives her that confidence that ‘Mum’s got my back covered’.
Mothers often say that they find it very difficult to trust their teenage girls more because in their quest for independence they device ways of achieving what they want even if they have to tell lies to cover up some wrong doings. Most teenagers lie because they see it as an easier route in solving their peer pressure and influence which is very strong. As much as possible spend time to discuss often with your girl on the happenings around her life. That way your major concern will be her safety.